Sex positive inquiry: glansoplasty and penetration

Does having the glans done help with (make it easier) penetration? Thanks for your great question! I feel like no, but in truth, I only tried having penetrative sex once before having glansoplasty. It was no easier/more difficult post-glansoplasty, as glansoplasty doesn't change the density of the glans or shaft, which was my issue. Some …

Inquiry: Scrotum hang

Was there a way to stretch your potential scrotum skin so that when you got the implants they could hang a bit more lower and look a little more aesthetically natural? . idk how to word it sorry My surgeon had me do a total expansion between formation of scrotum and getting scrotal implants. I …

Surgery Inquiry: Foreskin

Is it possible to get phalloplasty with an uncircumcised look? unfortunately, we don't (yet?) have a way to have skin heal on top of skin without the two fusing together. Whether we're talking about a "partial" prepuce (foreskin ending before the tip of the glans) or full prepuce look (foreskin ending beyond the glans) the …

A Decade Out from Phalloplasty

I recently passed the decade anniversary of having phalloplasty. I feel oddly nonplus about it. Partly I think it's about how thoroughly I take having a dick and balls for granted. That's a healthy outcome of having healed, to be so at home in my body, ergo the anniversary is a non-event. Partly I think …

Measure of Time

Growing up, for various reasons both related to gender norms and not, my birthdays were largely a fraught affair. That started to turn around in my mid teens, as I started to have a lot more control over how they were celebrated, with whom, etc. But it didn't last long as transition milestones (e.g. starting …

TDOR 2020

Today brings up a lot of feelings.I'm reminded of the wisdom a mentor shared with me a long time ago. During the Q&A following an anti-queerphobia/transphobia workshop, it was important to challenge the "easier" conversations more participants were willing/hoping to have (e.g. asking the trans/non-binary presenter what their name of origin was.) Besides being a …

Shifting the Disclosure Balance Once Again

I begin a full time job next week where no one knows my medical history. I've done it before, but only for short periods of time since completing lower surgeries. Really looking forward to this being my new normal, now that I'm post-dysphoria. My level of self-awareness is so much lower, I have so many …

Delaying Name v2.1

I am stalling on modifying my name to reflect my marriage. My spouse took one of my family names. I agreed to make the other into a middle name for myself, so we have a single, common last name for border crossings, etc. I want to do it, insofar as I want the intended result. …

Self-Awareness: Nightmare

A few months ago, in real life, I had an institution send an email addressed to my name of origin. This is some ~18 years after I changed it with them. It took phone calls and two meetings for them to leave things as "we're doing what we can to correct this. We'll follow up …

Surgery Inquiry: Worry About Options

Am I the only one that feels like, regardless of the procedure, it still won't feel right even after bottom surgery? Am I being irrational or is this a legitimate fear? It's very legitimate to wonder what's best for your genitals, and be skeptical of your surgical options. It's the most intimate part of our …