Changes in behaviour or psychology

NB: acknowledgement that I'm a sexual assault survivor, but no discussion of assaults.  Also intimate TMI ahead. If TMI could disturb you, don’t read past *****. Transition, transphobia and the things that came along with these have changed me. I’m quieter, calmer and less angry than I was prior to transition. This is all relative … Continue reading Changes in behaviour or psychology


Lessons learnt

I wouldn’t have been better off starting T much more than a month before I did. Had I been financially disowned much sooner, I could not have pulled off the housing situation (however precarious it was) I did until I was able to pay rent on a monthly basis. I came very close to being … Continue reading Lessons learnt

Hopes for the future – a wish list

Decriminilisation of sex work globally (I see you NZ!) Decriminalisation of HIV globally Decriminalisation of all drugs globally (SO to Portugal!) Actual legal recognition that trans women are women no more "bathroom" bills Actual legal regonition that trans men are men Decriminalisation of "sex by deceit" in the UK Guaranteed minimum income globally Universal, adaptable, … Continue reading Hopes for the future – a wish list

Self-Awareness: Possibility of Ghost Moments

Ghost moments used to weird me right out. I see someone I know, they don’t recognise someone they knew. To them, I'm a faceless/nameless stranger in the crowd. I’ve gotten used to it. Sometimes it makes me melancholic. Sometimes I’m thrilled I’m spared the social interaction with someone I couldn’t stomach. It's not hard in … Continue reading Self-Awareness: Possibility of Ghost Moments

Transition and romantic relationships

Things were different in my (cis queer women dominated) social networks when I began medical transition. Social transition made me mostly desirable, though some butch lesbians saw it as some claim to a greater degree of masculinity/strength/toughness (which they conflated with maleness) than them. But the conventional “wisdom” was that T would turn me into … Continue reading Transition and romantic relationships

Evolution (if any) of relationship to ARAO/feminism

I’m even more committed to feminism now than prior to transition. I was always pro-choice, but having fought for my right to dispose of my uterus despite several medical professionals insisting I was (at the time) too young, augmented my belief in “my body, my choice”. It was disturbing that these doctors were fighting for … Continue reading Evolution (if any) of relationship to ARAO/feminism