To disclose or not to a work client…

I'm out to my company and my client as a bi guy married to a man. No one on my team or the client side has said a negative thing, my sexual orientation is a non-issue on a day to day basis. The head of HR made an "unhelpful" comment about same-sex parenting via surrogacy. … Continue reading To disclose or not to a work client…

Fresh starts

Spring is here! Daylight is longer, temperatures are warmer; I can comfortably go out for short spans of time without a coat. At the surrogate's request, we started the process over at another clinic. They approach care from a philosophy more aligned with hers, and since it's her body, we feel it should be her … Continue reading Fresh starts

Body building training and body image 2 years into the pandemic

At the very beginning of the pandemic, before there were mask mandates, I anxiously continued to workout at the gym up until we emigrated. I was in the best shape I had ever been, my body image was great, I was loving my modest but steady gains. The gyms shut the week we landed; I … Continue reading Body building training and body image 2 years into the pandemic

NSFW Inquiry: to disclose or not prior to sex

Should one actually have to disclose that one is trans if you have already had your 'undercarriage' remodeled. Content note: I mention surviving medical abuse, other forms of abuse including many from rape culture, though no specific incident is described. Thanks for the prompt, it's a very important topic! I don't disclose prior to intimate … Continue reading NSFW Inquiry: to disclose or not prior to sex

Inquiry: Post Transition Resources

What resources do you consider essential to those who are post transition? Specifically thinking things that have helped you when/if complications post OP occurred, random legal issues, maybe even navigating dating. While I understand we navigate the world as male, sometimes BS occurs. Excellent query, thank you! Such a list is necessarily at least partially … Continue reading Inquiry: Post Transition Resources

Rant about trans guys who speak out of ignorance

One day, trans men noobs who haven't done credible research or had a procedure done will stop talking out of their asses. Probably the same day that monogamous people with little to no sexual activity history who aren't ace will stop judging any and all deviation from safer sex practices as unjustifiable. Poly people can … Continue reading Rant about trans guys who speak out of ignorance

Sex positive inquiry: sex positions post-ED

Curious question... What ED do you have and what sex position gives you most pleasure? Coloplast 3 piece Titan, with 2 inflatable rods.My favourite position depends on circumstances, namely height of bed/chair/surface area, whether doing vaginal/frontal or anal, the other person's flexibility/mobility and my energy level. Generally speaking, I love:- sitting face to face aka … Continue reading Sex positive inquiry: sex positions post-ED

List of reasons to improve physical fitness that have nothing to do with losing weight:

1. Improve functional strength: pick up kids and doggo with more ease. 2. Reduce risk of injury: strengthen external rotator cuff, improve balance, increase range of motion. 3. Reduce “bad” (LDL) cholesterol and increase “good” (HDL) cholesterol. 4. Maintain/improve cardiovascular health 5. Improve energy levels. 6. Good for bone health (resistance strength training) 7. Improve … Continue reading List of reasons to improve physical fitness that have nothing to do with losing weight:

Flip side

Two decades ago, as I grappled with my sexuality, I took coming out about my queerness as self-evident. The queerphobia I encountered joined forces with my internalised transphobia to argue that there was merit in considering living my life as a butch woman and keeping my maleness to myself. This didn't last long, but when … Continue reading Flip side