Dwindling relationship to trans men culture

This piece is about my relationship to trans (men) culture. But before I can do that, let’s get a few things out of the way: As far as I’m concerned, men of trans experience who don’t consider themselves trans are irrelevant in establishing what trans (men) culture might be. They are cis in culture; their … Continue reading Dwindling relationship to trans men culture

Sweet validation and budding confidence

Spending time with a trans elder was just what I needed. He confirmed that it's a good long term plan to normalise to oneself moments of "hyperawareness." He's got ~15 years of transition on me, and echoes the random times trans stuff springs to mind for pragmatic reasons. He strikes a similar balance between disclosure and … Continue reading Sweet validation and budding confidence

Challenging the lens through which trans men lower surgery is framed

Between stage 1 and 2 of lower surgeries, I was asked to speak at a trans support group about my surgical experience. Many guys wanted me to “confirm” that waking up from my 1st lower surgery was, pain aside, the best day of my life, that I suddenly felt “complete as a man”, and my life dramatically improved … Continue reading Challenging the lens through which trans men lower surgery is framed

Evolution (if any) of relationship towards HT and/or scars

Hormone Therapy Like everyone else, I eagerly looked forward to my 1st shots. They brought exciting changes, they would address so many sources of dysphoria. And they did. But as the changes slowed down, the shots became a source of dysphoria, reminding me of my life long dependence on them. Thankfully, my mood doesn’t crumble … Continue reading Evolution (if any) of relationship towards HT and/or scars