Surgical inquiry, fistula years post-op

I'm a few years post op, and after I jerk off, it's a toss up as to where the cum is going to...uh...come from. Sometimes out the tip, and only a very little, like less than a teaspoon, the rest is from below, like under my nuts. Is that normal? Does yours come from the … Continue reading Surgical inquiry, fistula years post-op

A shorter, lighter entry for a change

My health insurance declined the request to cover the tissue expansion to remove the skin graft on my donor site. It's covered under 2 circumstances, neither of which apply following lower surgery, ah well... I've asked for an estimate to pay out of pocket. The odds are good it'll come in at a cost I can … Continue reading A shorter, lighter entry for a change

Unpacking anxiety around sex with cis queer women since lower surgeries

I'm solo poly bisexual. I've been reflecting on changes to my sex life during and since my lower surgeries. Essentially, I have an easier time having sex if I don't disclose to intimate partners or if I do, but they don't know much beyond the basics (e.g. respectful language.) This has translated to sleeping with … Continue reading Unpacking anxiety around sex with cis queer women since lower surgeries