I received these questions about 6 years ago when I had healed from stage 1. I thought it’d be interesting to post my answers from then, along with answers based on having since completed all stages, and finished healing a few years ago.
I was hoping that you could answer some questions and give me a realistic perspective on things. Here are some of my concerns in the form of questions:
1) I have amazing sensation right now and am worried about possibly having none. Are you okay with the limited sensation you have right now?
I have just as much sensation now as I had before. I haven’t had my old glans buried. My current plans are to have it buried with nerve hook up. Having said that I went into phallo knowing I might lose some sensation and knowing that in my case it was worth the reduction in dysphoria. But I haven’t had to cross that bridge (yet).
I have amazing sensation since natal glans burial and nerve hook-up. Since resolving my dysphoria around my genitals, orgasms are much more frequent than before. I was able to cum from the buried glans from the early days of recovery. It took about 9 months to start feeling the gains in sensation from nerve hook-up. There was substantial gains until about 15 months post-nerve hook-up. There was ongoing gains until about 3 years post-nerve extension.
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2) Does the light colour of the phallus compared to your scrotum bother you?
Not at all. Many light skinned guys’ scrotum is darker than their dicks. What I wanted was a difference in colour between the glans and shaft and I had a tattoo to achieve that.
Nothing to add or change.
3) Could you live with having a phallo with no urethral lengthening if there were too many complications or other problems?
Yes, that’s what I’ve been doing for 18 months so far. But I’m confident I’ll get u hook-up eventually; I’ve been proposed 4 options already and 3 appeal to me. I’m sorting out which will work best for me given my finances, mental health, time off work, etc.
On a day to day basis, I could deal with my dysphoria around voiding much better following colpocleisis and scrotoplasty, but I still experienced crushing dysphoria now and again. Urethral lengthening was essential for me. While complications are commonplace, I had none.
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4) Can you manage the loss of spontaneous erections? (Do you plan to get a device?)
Again, not having buried my old glans, I still get spontaneous erections. For now my plan is to get an erectile device post u hook-up because I’d rather not depend on an external device indefinitely. I’m also conscious I may be singing a different tune by the time I’m done u hook-up. I needed a break following stage 1 so I expect I’ll want one following stage 2 or decide my mental health cannot handle further surgeries. Nothing’s set in stone, I find that to be the healthiest approach to this multi-year process. I’ll still be able to feel erections once it’s buried, at least that’s what other guys have reported. I don’t care if I can see it or not, and I’ll be able to concentrate stimulation around it if I so chose.
I could still feel erections clearly following natal glans burial for a while. I can still feel a pooling of blood to the area when I’m turned on, but it no longer feels like the erection of my natal glans per se. As far as I could make out, he was buried, wrapped around my urethra. But in my mind the two dicks have merged beyond distinction, so it feels like it’s part of my urethra/the inside of my dick that’s particularly turned on, until I start stimulating my dick, and then my entire groin region feels fairly equally aroused.
As predicted, I strongly considered not getting a penile implant following stage 2. I ended up getting one, and I enjoy it much more than I thought I would. I’ll definitely get it replaced when this one kicks the bucket. I love that my erections last as long as I want them to, and their longevity has been a hit with all thus far ;p
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5) Are you happy with your decision to get the phallo despite what may or may not come in your future?
Yup, very happy I went for phallo. I feel so much safer in public showers, change rooms, toilets, when doing any sport where the gear/clothing leaves nothing to the imagination. I feel much less dysphoric in my day to day, much more at home in my body.
So stoked I got my lower surgeries. Urethraplasty and nerve hook-up resolved the rest of my dysphoria, the penile implant was the icing on the cake. Lower surgeries dramatically improved my quality of life.
6) If you could do it all over again would you still choose phallo over meta?
I didn’t chose phallo over meta; meta wasn’t an option for me. Meta makes a lot of sense for a lot of guys, but it wouldn’t have addressed my own dysphoria triggers. My choice was between no surgery and phallo.
Nothing to add or change.