Improving Body Image Through Exercise

The following have been useful reflections and realisations as I refine my fitness goals. These are very personal and not to be taken as statements or inferences about anyone else. I started off with an unhelpfully vague goal of "masculinising" by "gaining size" which I wrongly equated to an increase in strength. Skeletal muscles are … Continue reading Improving Body Image Through Exercise

Why I Stopped Training with a PT

I trained with several trainers over a decade. One thing I found frustrating with several of them, was that they discouraged me from pursuing my goals, in favour of working towards more common fitness goals. It seems generally personal trainers don't want to conceive of body building as complimentary or in addition to other forms … Continue reading Why I Stopped Training with a PT

7 Most Common Questions I Get on Trans Forums and my Killjoy Answers

I present these in no particular order. Please let me know which questions you wish you could never be asked again. “When did you start having facial hair?!?” I had some pre-T. Not everyone can grow facial hair. Facial hair should not be a litmus test. “When do you feel masculine?” What do you mean … Continue reading 7 Most Common Questions I Get on Trans Forums and my Killjoy Answers

Inquiry: Dating Post-Op (some TMI)

I'm finding it increasingly difficult to navigate the dating world (and medical/healthcare world, different topic) despite being post-transition, post-bottom surgery, which comes with the assumption that these facets of life are easier to deal with post-transition. And it's becoming ever-increasingly isolating, nevertheless frustrating, feeling entirely on my own in this. The lack of experience regarding … Continue reading Inquiry: Dating Post-Op (some TMI)

The Weirdness of Adjusting to a New Body Shape (TMI ahead)

In my experience, something often misunderstood, is how the "subconscious" part of the brain can take a moment to adjust to a body's new shape following surgery. I had a weird sensation in my eyes the first time I saw my chest post-op. Some part of my brain was certain that my eyes were mis-transmitting … Continue reading The Weirdness of Adjusting to a New Body Shape (TMI ahead)