Lower Surgeries and Sense of Self

I recently filled out this survey for post-lower op guys. If you're post-meta or have at least had shaft reconstruction, fill it out. There's some flaws to the survey IMHO, but nothing offensive; and as worthy to participate in as another survey. This one's results are available in real time for members to access, which …

Self-Awareness: grateful to be post-transition while camping

I'm dealing with some health stuff. I haven't had to take time off work, just take it easy outside of work, as I recover from some minor out patient surgeries. As we pack to go camping, I fret about potential infection, soreness, etc. I worry about having a flair up or two of my episodic …

3 steps forward, 2 steps back

The emerging family plan continues if at a slower paste than previously hoped for, but there remains discernible forward movement overall. It lends itself to more time to have more conversations better had and revisited if need be before there's a child directly dependent on the conclusions to these convos. They continue to reaffirm the …

Unusual Work Situation

I got a promotion at work! I'm part of a different team, and the new responsibilities are more up my alley than the previous ones were. It's been a manageable learning curve so far, and while it isn't work I would have sought out prior to the pandemic, I'm proud of myself for making the …

Focusing on the Good Stuff

Apologies for being MIA. There's an ongoing crisis in my life, which has nothing to do with my health history or sexuality. Things will get sorted eventually, but it's dominating my head space. I've begun recording to create a podcast heavily based on this blog. It's too soon to say more, but it feels good …

Well Meaning… and Repulsive

This scene may feel all too familiar. You're getting to know a endocishet person, you've shared you're 2SLGBTIAQ, and this caused strain/a riff in your family of origin. They're very empathetic, and out of good intentions, they imply that they can be your substitute parent. As a culturally queer person, as someone adopted, and for …

Surgery Inquiry: Items Recommendation

Any recommendations on items that made your life better while recovering from Phallo?Example: an elevated toilet, mini fan…thanks!!! In no particular order, here are my top recommendations: A cleansing bottle (link for an image and description, I'm not endorsing Amazon/this specific model)While I was a bleeding mess, and showers were a challenge, I would sit …

Sex positive inquiry: glansoplasty and penetration

Does having the glans done help with (make it easier) penetration? Thanks for your great question! I feel like no, but in truth, I only tried having penetrative sex once before having glansoplasty. It was no easier/more difficult post-glansoplasty, as glansoplasty doesn't change the density of the glans or shaft, which was my issue. Some …

Inquiry: Scrotum hang

Was there a way to stretch your potential scrotum skin so that when you got the implants they could hang a bit more lower and look a little more aesthetically natural? . idk how to word it sorry My surgeon had me do a total expansion between formation of scrotum and getting scrotal implants. I …

Surgery Inquiry: Foreskin

Is it possible to get phalloplasty with an uncircumcised look? unfortunately, we don't (yet?) have a way to have skin heal on top of skin without the two fusing together. Whether we're talking about a "partial" prepuce (foreskin ending before the tip of the glans) or full prepuce look (foreskin ending beyond the glans) the …