Indigenous Day

On National Indigenous Peoples Day, I would like to acknowledge the legacies, histories, accomplishments and realities of Indigenous people on the treaty territories and the unceded land of Turtle Island. I was born and mostly grew up in territories comprising the Kichi Sibi (Ottawa River) watershed, which were never surrendered or ceded by their traditional …

Mysterious Ailment Update

Good news: the painkiller that manages my pain is now available in Canada! I have a standing prescription, what a weight off my shoulders. I have a working diagnosis but it's not definitive yet. One more test to go. Grateful to my family physician for letting me choose which specialist I see next. How I …

Sex positive phalloplasty inquiries

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am currently on hrt and post top surgery.Now the dysphoria is completely focused on my bottom half. I’ve had extreme doubts and breakdowns over whether it was worth it because the dysphoria is not subsiding, it’s just shifting and sometimes intensifying.I had planned on phalloplasty but …

Strategies against sexual violence aren’t about me

I precise cis and trans where relevant, but where I don't, assume that when I write women, for example, I mean trans and cis women, and where and to the degree that transfeminine people feel this applies to their lived experience as well, them too. The following will seem self-evident to most of us, but …

8 Positive Parts to My Transition

Choosing my nameOne of my names is after a maternal relative, and the other after a dear childhood friend who modelled none toxic masculinity. Making me a better parent, godparent, and mentorRemembering how adults in my life were invested in gender from my youngest of memories made me determined to do better by the children …

Self-Awareness: Ongoing Fear of Being Taken Off T

Mere months into my testosterone therapy, my wonderful doctor was out of the country doing a stint with Médecins du Monde. The doctor brought in to cover her practice was not well versed in trans care. To make a long story short, while I was there to do routine blood work for someone starting treatment, …

10 Reasons I’m Grateful

Amidst these unprecedented circumstances, I'm mindful of the importance to be grateful for the things going well. Most of these fall under the umbrella of being grateful I'm back home. I present the following in no particular order: Being bald. My hair care continues as usual and to the same quality as before physical distancing. …

Question: déprime post-op

As tu eu le post op blues après la mamec ? [reste ôté pour maintenir l'anonymat.] Je ne l'ai pas eu suite à ma reconstruction du haut de torse ni mon hysto, mais je l'ai eu suite à ma phallo. J'ai écrit un paquet dessus (en anglais). C'est définitivement courant, suite à n'importe quelle chirurgie, …

To Gender Critical Forum Parents Reading This

Since your forum links to my blog, I decided to read a bit of what's publicly available on your forum to get a better idea of where you were coming from. I admit, I'm no closer to knowing why your forum links to my blog; that's behind a password wall. Some of you joined that …

Self-Awareness: trans inclusive ads

I'm not defending any of the corporations linked further along. Some, if not all, of them have done dreadful things either as corporations, to their trans employees, trans customers, all of the above and more. There's no ethical consumption under capitalism. I've worked for more than my fair share of LGBTIQA+ orgs who have generally …