Sex positive phalloplasty inquiries

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am currently on hrt and post top surgery.Now the dysphoria is completely focused on my bottom half. I’ve had extreme doubts and breakdowns over whether it was worth it because the dysphoria is not subsiding, it’s just shifting and sometimes intensifying.I had planned on phalloplasty but …

Question: déprime post-op

As tu eu le post op blues après la mamec ? [reste ôté pour maintenir l'anonymat.] Je ne l'ai pas eu suite à ma reconstruction du haut de torse ni mon hysto, mais je l'ai eu suite à ma phallo. J'ai écrit un paquet dessus (en anglais). C'est définitivement courant, suite à n'importe quelle chirurgie, …

Body Fat Redistribution Inquiry

I know I can’t control where I lose fat, only whether or not I lose it. But at some point the testosterone should take the fat off my hips but that can take years, right? I’ve heard from other people that their fat moves. I think it’s more like they burn ass fat when they …

Query: Insecurity in Open Relationship (TMI/NSFW text)

I've edited the prompt for a few reasons, but here is the spirit of it. I don't generally have internalised shame about being trans. But one situation that makes me feel dysphoric is when my primary partner goes on a date with a cis guy or non-binary AMAB person. I reject bodily essentialism in principle, …

Surgical Inquiry: girth and implants (TMI/NSFW)

I liked the girth I initially had post-op but once the swelling went down so did the girth by about an inch. Am I right that getting an erectile implant will likely get that inch back? I'm sorry, but it's unlikely a penile implant will give you back that inch. The way a penile implant …

Surgical Inquiry: Swimming Post Phallo

Summer's here and I haven't been swimming since phallo, and my dick's quite girthy. What kinds of swimsuits are good for us and how do you get over the whole 'kids are around' thing? If you're swimming, swim trunks. Our dicks float up when we're in the water, there's no real need for support IME. When …

Post-scrotoplasty query: Jock Itch (tmi)

Have you experienced jock itch? If so how did you handling it? I just brought some gold bond body spray. I start all my showers by rinsing all around my nut sac with a handheld shower head, in warmer weather I often have a 2nd "shower" strictly to rinse my junk. And after patting dry …

Inquiry: Does Hormone Therapy Shorten Life Expectancy

Is there any scientific evidence to back up the belief HRT can shorten your life? They used to assume that our experience of T would mirror that of cis men, that's where the notion that our cardiovascular risk rises upon going on T comes from. But those studies on cis men are largely done on …

Inquiry: The Infantalisation of Trans Men

This inquiry took place over IM, and was amidst a larger conversation. So I don't have a neat starting question, but copied and pasted the bit that made me realise this topic, which I've touched on before, deserved its own entry. \The exact "she" referenced below is irrelevant. Like many others, she's a cis woman …

Inquiry: Do You Have Dysphoria

How do you know if you have dysphoria? All I know is that I am very uncomfortable in my own body, I don't like my sex characteristics at all, a lot of the time. I just don't feel right and I feel a discomfort that I cannot quite put my finger on. I feel disconnected, …