Self-Awareness: choice of where to live

Seemingly, I left the perfect living arrangement a few years ago. I lived on my own, in a place with a gest bedroom, enjoyed a quick walk to work, and my fabulous family physician, while living on a street where I cherished several lovely neighbours. I was a reasonable walking distance to several of my … Continue reading Self-Awareness: choice of where to live

Gratefulness in a Time of Grief

I'm utterly devastated, and the worse is still ahead. It additionally feels like coming to the mostly bitter end of the last few years of my life, which have revolved around multiple cancer diagnosis of most of my nearest and dearest and chronic underemployment for me as I scrambled to provide them with care. There's … Continue reading Gratefulness in a Time of Grief

Limits of therapy and DIY coping strategies for abuse and sexual assault history

Content Note: I won't be describing any abuse or assault. I'm acknowledging I'm a repeat survivor, my barriers in accessing care around this. Check in with yourself as need be both before and as you read this. I went to therapy regularly for nearly a decade. I began going to access letters as required under … Continue reading Limits of therapy and DIY coping strategies for abuse and sexual assault history

Dealing with misgendering at the beginning of hormone therapy

I was asked for tips to deal with misgendering early into hormone therapy. So here are some ideas, in no particular order. Hair cuts Getting or giving myself hair cuts was one of the best self-care I had. If you don't want your hair to be shorter, dying it, or styling it differently may achieve … Continue reading Dealing with misgendering at the beginning of hormone therapy

Examples of Queer Culture

This is an adjoining piece in a way to the one on transnormativity, but instead of being snapshots of homonormativity, it's tidbits of queer culture. Family is a matter of choice. Chosen family, and Houses are cornerstones of queerness. Drag, Courts systems, Ballroom communities, Drag Queen Storytelling , LGBTIQ centred film festivals, conferences, sport leagues, choirs, … Continue reading Examples of Queer Culture