Nothing Will Ever be the Same Again

We have kiddo's life book, health records, etc the application went in, so while the legal end of things crawls on, we are kiddo's permanent parents! The regression is playing out differently than I anticipated. Mostly in a "good" way, insofar as the best scenario is one in which there is no trauma to cope …

Housing Transition and Nesting Continue

The pets are getting used to the children toys. The child is building up confidence around the pets. The meeting with the child's lawyer went even better than we expected. No doubt there will be bumps along the road but it is shaping up to be less stressful than we anticipated. I found an adorable …

Preschool Selection (updated)

We made a short list of potential kindergartens and have interviewed all but one already. The encouraging news is that none seem to be terrible options. Our 2nd and 3rd choices have swapped places so far. None has skipped a beat about our queerness. I am grateful for all the advocates that came before us. …

A Different Kind of Transition

We've met kiddo; it could not have gone better. In short, we're over the moon. The next steps continue the trend of coming at us quickly. This seasonal break from work has been everything but restful, though I am grateful for its timing with the beginning of this chaotic and compressed nesting. More meetings ahead, …

Latest Adoption Plot Twists

We met the care team and foster parent. The picture of the child's disabilities we now have is quite different than we were originally led to believe. We are in no way deterred, but the ACO workshop we took now seems irrelevant and we are signing up for a more relevant series provided by a …

Coles Notes of Adoption updates

We have completed the mandatory readiness course. It was as endocishetnormative as expected, but that wasn't the worst part. We don't miss it but we might yet make 3 friends out of it despite difficult virtual circumstances made worse by amateur facilitators. If you are about to take or are presently doing the PRIDE course, …

Home Study Begun

So far it's going reasonably well; we are reassured about one of our concerns as prospective queer trans intersex resource parents. I don't like the expression "resource family" but it's what they use so trying to warm up to their lingo. About half way through our first appointment, by which time we had mentioned twice …

Late summer update

In a plot twist I didn't anticipate, we are trying for surrogacy one more time. We are with a different clinic and the would-be surrogate is open to some additional medical procedures than before (if need be.) It's still early days, and for now I am approaching it as "if it works out: outstanding, but …

Ongoing Saga Low Disclosure “Friends”

This person pops in and out of my life as he needs. I try to sustain a friendship, he has neet interests and I enjoy him as a person. To him, I seem to primarily be a resource. We have discussed the language barrier between us. My 1st and 2nd languages are his 2nd and …

Spring 2023 Updates

We have moved! The smoothest move of my life, and hopefully the last one for a few decades. There is still much to do to transform this house into our home but it is a labour of love to get there. Still no luck on getting trans healthcare locally, time will tell how that plays …